Moving to a new house is stressful enough when children aren’t a factor, but when they are, it becomes an entirely different ball game. An online study conducted by Online Mortgage Advisor found that parents are twice as likely to find moving home extremely stressful, with just under half stating that finding and securing the property was the most stressful part of moving home.
The moving process is no longer solely about whether you and your partner like the house and the area, it’s about the impact this move could have on your children and growing family. You must consider school moves, friends, and how adaptable your child is to these changes. That’s not all though, if you’re planning on growing your family further
Moving with a child
If you already have children, then it’s important for them to feel involved in the whole moving process
“It will only take 10 minutes to get to grandma’s house instead of 20!”.
Finally, when you have confirmed everything and you have a set date, have them help you with the packing and the moving. Give them the boxes they need to pack up their room and teach them how to do it in an orderly fashion. Leave them to it and check on them every few minutes. By doing this, you’re giving them the responsibility, which they’ll appreciate and associate with the move, positively reinforcing the process. Then, involve them in moving their boxes to storage, so they can see where they store their belongings until you move to the new house. This makes the change real for them, so they understand and can deal with the feelings of moving their treasured possessions to their new house. Shurgard is a great place to store your moving boxes because you can visit your storage area whenever you want. If there is a transition period between property A and property B, it may be worth taking a few trips with your child to your storage place, to show them that their belongings are still there and safe.
Moving with a growing family
To avoid the same situation of
Create a To-Do list that includes the start and finish of your move
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Get the whole family involved
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Start decluttering unwanted items in the house
In the weeks (or months) leading up to the big move, go through each room one by one and bag/box up items you don’t really need. Be brutal, the less you bring with you on the move, the cheaper your moving costs will be. Plus, you stand to earn an extra bit of money if you pop your unwanted stuff on eBay/Gumtree/Amazon, which you can then offset against your moving costs. Or, you can be super generous and drop them off at your local charity shop, so others can enjoy them instead.
“One person’s trash is another person’s treasure.”
Hire reputable estate agents and conveyancing solicitors
If you’re buying/selling a property, you will need to appoint either a solicitor or a conveyancer from the offset, to deal with the legal matters of moving. Moving house starts with conveyancing, which is the legal process you go through to buy or sell your house, and
Hire a removal company to pack your stuff up for you and move them to the new house
If you can afford it, I would absolutely recommend hiring professionals to pack up your belongings into their moving truck and move them to the new house. They are so experienced in what they do, the moving company can have pretty much everything boxed and moved within hours. Don’t forget to negotiate on the price, though. Perhaps, see if the movers would spread the move over a few days for a cheaper quote. If you need a place to store your boxes, Shurgard offers competitive rates to hold your items in storage, while you’re sorting out the move to property B.
If you can’t afford to then you can carry an HGV (Heavy Goods Vehicle) or an 18-wheeler to transport your goods from property A to property B. Be careful though as 18-wheelers are dangerous. Only drive if you know how to drive one and if you get into trouble and have an accident am 18-wheeler lawyer can help you here.
Take care of your emotional self and encourage your children to do the same.
You will experience a whole heap of emotions during this move, I know I did. I had my two boys almost back-to-back (they’re 15 months apart) and the postnatal healing took place on moving day to our first ever home as a family. I had to leave behind so many memories and, without realising it, I became depressed.
Even if the reasons for your move are positive, you will still experience feelings of anxiety, sadness and stress. Don’t brush these feelings away, but
Your children will also experience feelings they may not understand. Encourage them to talk to you about how they’re feeling and allow them to express themselves in a way they feel comfortable. They need to know that what they are feeling is normal. My boys may have only been three and four years old at the time of the move, but they still harboured feelings of anger and sadness because it was the only home that they had ever known. I assured them I was also sad to leave, but I was looking forward to moving to a big new house and making new memories with them, and if they ever needed to share how they felt about the
So, there you have it. Motherhood Diaries’ top tips on how to deal with the stress of moving to a new house. As long as you give yourself enough time to plan and operate the move, and being organised with your belongings right from the beginning, you should be able to make moving to a new house a breeze. Good luck!
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