32 weeks pregnant – Things are really getting to me now…

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I am having such a bad week this week. We’ve been at the new flat for a week now and the place looks like a construction site. I can’t sort out the nursery because everything has been thrown into boxes and they are too heavy for me to lift.

I’m bored at home by myself all day as there is no internet and the walk into town takes me about twenty minutes, which is fine one-way, but then my bladder is bursting by the time I get back home. I’ve put on so much weight, my belly is humungous and I don’t fit into any of my clothes, so I feel really rubbish. I probably look really bad too! My boobs have lost their perkiness and I’m just plain feeling sorry for myself – and I can’t help it! I try to snap myself out of this foul mood, but what’s scaring/depressing/frustrating me more is that I feel like I’m in a catch-22 situation. I can’t just go out to the pub and drink anymore, or I can’t exercise properly, or decide to take a long trip somewhere, or even fly to another country. And, when our little Boxer is born, of course, I may be able to do some or all of those things again, but I’ll never be able to think about just me anymore. I know it sounds selfish, but if I want to go to the gym, or I fancy a trip somewhere, I have to make sure our Boxer is looked after first, whether that means getting him a babysitter or he travels on the journeys with me. And, yes, of course, the thought of having Boxer come with me everywhere is so exciting at the same time. So, I don’t understand why I have these battling feelings in my mind constantly – why can’t I just stick with an emotion!? Maybe I should blame those pregnancy hormones – they are raging right now!

Hubby comes home dead to the world now that he has a gruelling journey to South West London from North West London, so we hardly spend any quality time together. He comes home late, watches a bit of TV, and then goes to bed early because he’s so tired. I feel like we’re wasting our time together as we have less than two months left before Boxer makes his appearance. But what can I do? It’s not his fault he has to travel one and a half hours each way to work now. I have tried to talk to him about looking for another job, but I’m talking to a brick wall right now. And, poor thing has to contend with unpacking the boxes by himself because I’m too much of a beached whale to do anything right now. So, I’m not pushing anything with him. He has his own problems to deal with and I don’t want to add to them.

My brother asked me if I was enjoying my pregnancy. I told him that it would be nice to be able to move about freely again and not feel so heavy. He said that I should cherish the time that I have with the baby so close to me, as these nine months of the pregnancy are the only times I will know where Boxer is twenty-four hours a day. That statement really did make me think twice about my slump. Of course! I should cherish Boxer in my belly because once he’s out, he’s out forever and I can’t rewind that precious time with him inside me anymore. So, I decided to think of ways to snap out of my funk.

I’d probably feel better if I had a project to do. I want to get started on the nursery, but I need hubby to shift the boxes first. Moving on with the flat might also get rid of some of these emotions of feeling useless. I wonder if these feelings of frustration are stressing the baby out too?

Boxer moves about a lot at night but sleeps a lot during the day. Maybe it’s because there’s hardly any room left in there, the poor fella. Whenever I bend down to put on my shoes or pick up something from the floor I feel like I’m squashing him! Also, I’ve noticed that whenever I rest something on my tummy he tries to push it away or feels around the area. It’s a fun game for us to play together and I really feel like I’m bonding with my baby. Boxer, mummy is waiting for you!

A fun fact – The baby weighs about as much as a large jicama or a coconut!

The science part

Your baby at 32 weeks

  • Your baby looks like a little person, with fingernails and everything!
  • Your baby sleeps for much of the day. But, they’re still turning around and moving their head side to side now
  • They’re sucking their thumb and kicking mummy in the belly whenever they get the chance now
  • Your baby may be head down now ready for birth, but if they’re still head up then not to worry as they still have time to turn
  • Baby is still practising swallowing and breathing in the amniotic fluid too. Baby is also sucking to get ready for that all important first feed
  • Your baby’s digestive system is set and ready to go and their skin is no longer transparent

Your pregnancy signs and symptoms

  • You may still feel tightening in your belly as you get ready for birth. They can be painful, so the way to tell if it isn’t labour is to change position and see if they stop. Labour contractions will get progressively stronger. A warm bath may help to ease the Braxton Hicks contractions
  • Are you still experiencing constipation? Regular exercise will help – even a brisk walk every day can really move things along!
  • If you’re feeling light-headed, it may be down to low blood sugar. Make sure you carry a protein and carb dense snack when you’re feeling a bit dizzy
  • If you’re still experiencing leg craps make sure you elevate your legs and up your calcium dose

Your next steps

  • Keep up with your multivitamins and nutritious diet. Your baby needs everything they can get in these last two crucial months
  • Continue to slater your belly in creams that help moisturise your skin
  • Keep a dream journal! Your dreams may be getting super crazy, so it might be great to document them – you may even be able to turn them into a book in the future!
  • Try not to obsess about stretch marks – 90% of women get them and they fade after birth.
  • Your next antenatal appointment is coming up – at 36 weeks – and your baby’s position will be checked.

Note:  These are just general ideas of how you and your baby are getting on. Don’t forget that every baby develops differently. If you are concerned about your baby’s development, please consult your doctor or midwife.

*Illustrations by Charlotte Watkins. 

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Leyla Preston (590 Posts)

Leyla Preston is the owner and Editor of Motherhood Diaries global magazine for parents. Leyla is a busy mother of two even busier boys; Aron, 8, and Aidan, 7. When Leyla isn’t feeding, managing a gazillion tasks or cleaning the infinite mess at home, she is busy working on this magazine and a new cooking channel coming very soon – no rest for the wicked! You can follow Leyla on Twitter (@M_Diaries) or join the busy Motherhood Diaries Facebook group where all mums get together and share stories and solutions with one another: https://www.facebook.com//groups/motherhooddiaries/