Leyla PrestonFounder of Motherhood Diaries and mum to two boys aged 8 and 9 and two girls (1 angel baby and a 12 month old).
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Did you know:
- At 20 years old, it can take up to four months to conceive
- At 35 years old, it can take up to 18 months to conceive
- At 40 years old, you have less than a 5% chance to conceive
- Even if you’re fit and healthy, your chances of conceiving are 25%
- There are only six days in the menstrual cycle when you can become pregnant. And that window opens BEFORE ovulation
- If you have health conditions, it may be even more difficult to get pregnant
Doesn’t sound easy to get pregnant, does it? When you hear of people getting pregnant at the drop of a hat, one does wonder how they beat the odds when other couples try for years and never conceive.
However, 5% at 40, is still 5%. It’s not 0%
And 25% is also not 0%.
So, it is possible, but the important thing to note here is unless your doctor or fertility specialist has advised you have a 0% chance of getting pregnant, then you can still get pregnant.
So this is why you have to be strict with your fertile window because the odds are evidently very small! But, at the same time, you can’t stress yourself because stress can also affect your chances of getting pregnant.
Some people may advise you to try some of the old tricks to getting pregnant like standing on top of your head or eating spinach before ovulation. The truth is, the journey to fertility can be a long one. So, making it fun is important (did you know that orgasming during sex can increase your chances of getting pregnant?)
If you’re trying to get pregnant and somehow you’re not conceiving, something could be off, whether that be your nutrition, your sleep patterns, you’re not doing it at the right time or even your partner’s sperm quality is subpar.
It’s important to look at ALL the internal and external factors that could be affecting your chances of getting pregnant naturally because fertility works when all the dots are connected.
If you’re trying to get pregnant naturally and need some extra help, then download our Starter Kit now!
The road to conception is a long process but it’s important to note the following too:
- If you are under 35 years old you should try for a year to get pregnant naturally before seeking fertility treatment.
- If you are over 35 years old you should try for six months to get pregnant naturally before seeking fertility treatment (We did try for 13 months the 3rd time and got pregnant at 37, but sadly lost the baby. We then tried for 14 months thereafter and got pregnant at 38 with our daughter who is now a bouncing toddler! I followed my own Natural Path to Pregnancy method, which you can find more information about here)
So, what do you need to do and look out for to ensure your road to fertility is a smoother process?
And are there any tricks on how to get pregnant fast and easy?
It’s all about making sure you’re hitting all the right points and learning how to increase fertility rather than playing the race game.
So, grab yourself a cuppa because this is a long read, but it’s jam-packed full of tips on increasing fertility, which worked for me twice.
So, what are some natural ways to get pregnant which you can act on right now?
*This post is not sponsored or gifted. This article is about raising awareness to parents on the importance of learning basic first aid skills, so you can help a child if they are choking. For more information on any of the points raised below, please visit the British Red Cross’ website and the links within the article for extra reference.*
Last year I conducted a mini informal survey with parents on what their biggest fear was related to their child and the subject that came up the most was choking.
This fear was further realised when a friend’s two-year-old daughter tragically passed away from choking on a piece of food at nursery. I have never felt so much grief for the family and the strength and support they’ve received has been nothing short of amazing. As a result, Sadie’s parents triggered a petition for sausages and grapes to be banned at nursery and a fundraising page has been set up for children’s intensive care charity COSMIC.
“It’s important that [nursery] staff are trained, are able to react quickly and have the confidence to respond to any incidents.”
Purnima Tanuku, Chief Executive of National Day Nurseries Association (NDNA)
Choking has been my biggest fear, especially when my middle one choked on a lollipop when he was 18 months old and I almost broke his back getting it out. Thankfully, I was successful and the reason for this was that I had learned basic first aid just a few months prior. I am so grateful for the first aid I learned because if I hadn’t known what to do, I dread to think what may have happened.
*This post is sponsored by the Sea & Eat Project, which is funded by EIT food, to encourage children to eat a greater variety of vegetables in their diet. For more information on the Sea & Eat Project, please do read on!*
My three children have unanimously preferred fruit over vegetables, probably because it was easier for me to incorporate fruits into their diet as early as the weaning stage when we generally started with fruits like banana and apple. My youngest baby started eating at 4 1/2 months and wolfed down a banana as her very first food. However, at 14 months old, I’ve only just managed to get her to try spinach and broccoli.
Why? Because children are hardwired to enjoy sweet foods, and parents just want our kids to eat. So we encourage them to try the sweeter foods to whet their appetite, hoping they will naturally transition to vegetables later.
But a move to vegetables may not always happen because some kids may end up avoiding vegetables altogether and it can then become a long, hard slog to open their palettes to new types of foods.
The truth is, all children are different and whereas my boys eat everything now anyway, including veg, my daughter is a lot fussier and has to try certain vegetables a dozen times before she trusts me and eats them. She’s the only one of the three kids who eat avocado and olives though!
What are the advantages of eating vegetables in a child’s diet?
Emotional intimacy is in abundance at the start of a relationship so one can assume it will always be there. But many couples find their emotional intimacy starts to diminish after some time, especially after kids, and it can become a struggle to bring it back.
A relationship can be hard work to maintain, and once one party decides they don’t want to put in the work anymore, the cracks start to appear. Without hard work and commitment from both of you, you might find that your relationship starts to slip away.
Leaving a marriage can be one of the toughest decisions you will ever make and yet sometimes it could be the right thing to do. But focussing your attention on keeping the intimacy alive first ensures you did everything you could to keep your marriage alive. So what should you do about your problems in marriage?
Check out some tips below on how to keep your marriage alive.
It’s massively important to work on keeping that spark alive and intimacy deep between you and your partner, for not only does it maximise your chances of staying together, but it also sets a notable example of how your kids should act in a relationship when they get older. Read on for some tips on how to rekindle a marriage after kids – especially during lockdown!
On Thursday 12th September at around 12.30 am, at 39+4 weeks pregnant, I waddled upstairs to try to get some sleep. As I laid down, I heard a very loud pop. That’s weird I thought. At first, I thought something had burst in my belly, but when I went to the toilet, I experienced trickling which didn’t stop.
I went downstairs to tell my husband that I think my water just broke. Hubby, who was still absent-mindedly watching TV, and having heard this three times from me before, double-checked if I hadn’t just peed myself again. But, as soon as he finished that sentence, more liquid trickled down my leg.
Hubby gasped and agreed that my waters had broken.
It took hubby about 30 seconds to grab a towel, but by the time he had come back, I had a puddle on the floor and my knickers were soaked through. I called my parents to ask if one of them could look after our older two boys, as they were asleep and they had school the next day.
It has been over three years since I wrote Part 2 of Journey to getting my girl, and there is a reason for the delay.
But, to continue with the series, we’ll start from where we left off in Part 2. If you haven’t read any of the ‘Journey to getting my girl’ series, then I suggest you start with Part 1 here, so you understand the backstory.
To summarise, the series talks about my husband and I following a non-invasive conception plan to get my girl using Dr Verma of Urobiologics’ two tests, the PreGender Test which determines whether the female’s menstrual cycle favours a boy or girl via non-invasive urine sampling and the FirstGender Test which determines the gender of the baby via a urine sample from conception has been proven with 95% accuracy! Urobiologics discovered that that just like there are two kinds of sperm (which determine the gender), women have alternating boy-girl specific menstrual cycles (which select the gender).
We had already sent our samples in and Dr Verma sent us our conception plan to try for a girl.
My family love embarking upon new adventures, especially when it involves travel and a luxury place to stay, even if for just one night. Back in 2017, we enjoyed a lovely Family Fun Package stay at The Arch London Hotel in Marble Arch, and the kids loved it so much that we secured another stay at The Arch London, this time with an Easter twist. The Arch London kindly offered us the chance to review their Easter Family Fun Package over the Easter weekend (20/21st April) and stay in the newly refurbished Juniper Suite. We also got to enjoy an in-room Easter egg hunt, delicious 3-course meal at the Hotel’s Hunter 486 restaurant, after dinner milk and cookies and complimentary breakfast the next morning. It was a fantastic stay, which we won’t forget in a hurry.
Stay tuned for our extensive review of the Easter Family Fun Package at The Arch London, which includes a sudden unforeseen event which the hotel dealt with promptly!