Introduction – Journey to getting my girl – Part 1

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It’s no secret to close friends and family that I want to have another baby. I am one of four children and my dream is to have a large brood myself. However, a lot of people think I’m crazy for wanting another when I had two boys in such quick succession (they’re fifteen months apart at four and five years old). But, ever since one of my mummy friends had a baby daughter, I haven’t been able to quieten my womb – it wants a baby girl. And, since we can’t pre-order baby girls, there is a strong likelihood that I’ll end up with another boy, which isn’t bad, of course. The boys would get another best friend and, as long as my baby was 100% happy and healthy, I wouldn’t mind having a teeny tiny baby to hold again. But, if there was a small chance I could get my princess, would I take it? I don’t want to take invasive measures and go under the knife or create test tube babies. I also don’t believe a lot of that mumbo jumbo on the net about what to eat and how to position yourself to conceive, in the likelihood that I’ll increase my chances of having a girl by 0.02%.

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A couple of years ago, a doctor from Michigan approached me via Motherhood Diaries, with an amazing new discovery that claimed that just like there are two kinds of sperm (which actually determine the gender), women have alternating boy-girl specific menstrual cycles. His data suggested that 92 out of 100 couples got their dream babies if they conceived within the appropriate cycle. This success rate makes one believe that the uterus may be sorting the X and Y chromosome-bearing sperm, depending on the type of cycle the woman is in and, therefore, then selects the gender of the baby. Most importantly, the process is administered through non-invasive methods, such as urine testing, and boasts a whopping 92% success rate. At the time, I was knee deep in two babies and experiencing utter turmoil, so the thought of having another baby was far, far from my mind. A couple of years on and I am now all ears.

About the discovery.

Urobiologics, headed by Dr. Kuldeep Verma, massively researched into the area of non-invasive methods of gender selection and post-conception gender determination. They found that women housed two different types of hormonal environments, which alternate in every menstrual cycle. Urobiologics call each cycle the ‘boy cycle’ and the ‘girl cycle’. So, evidently, if the couple want a boy, they conceive in the ‘boy cycle’, if they want a girl, they conceive in the ‘girl cycle’. The 92% success rate is the highest in the gender selection industry, far better than 37% for IVF! The company is so confident of their success that, in recent times, they even ask for the proposed name of the baby before starting the tests.


So, I have named my future baby girl ‘Ayla’.

So, how are these urine tests so accurate at determining the cycle?

Urobiologics offer two types of tests, the first is the PreGender Preconception Test, where the female mails in two mid-cycle urine samples collected from two consecutive cycles, in order to determine which favours the boy or girl cycle.

First month urine sample – any 2 nights between the 13th to the 17th day after the start of your period – in one separate bottle

Second month urine sample – any 2 nights between the 13th to the 17th day after the start of your period, in a separate bottle

Both bottles are shipped through couriers. It is legal to ship urine samples across international borders under the ‘exempt human specimen’ clause shown on Urobiologics’ website. The samples are kept at room temperature, which actually makes them easier to test and process over time.

If there is a ratio of more testosterone to oestrogen in one cycle, the environment will favour conception of a boy. If there is more oestrogen to testosterone in the alternate cycle, the environment will favour conception of a girl. Urobiologics then guides the couple as to when to try and conceive. And, if you don’t conceive first time, Urobiologics will keep emailing you your conception plan in every desired cycle until you conceive at no extra cost. When conception occurs in a particular cycle, the process locks the existing environment until the female gives birth or the baby is miscarried. So, when the couple call Urobiologics up and let them know that they have successfully conceived, Urobiologics is fully aware of the gender already. The female then collects a urine sample for three nights, in preparation for the FirstGender test, which determines the gender of the baby.

The following graph provides a better understanding of this new concept:

Urobiologics hormonal environment to help plan for boy or girl - motherhooddiaries

The FirstGender Post-conception Test, can detect the gender of baby as early as 3 days before the expected menstrual date onwards with a 96% accuracy. So, there is no need to wait until the 20-week scan then!

Why I decided to go for it and get my girl

I have nothing to lose and everything to gain. If it doesn’t work, it doesn’t work. But, the 92% success rate, plus the fact that I only need to send urine samples in and conceive within the girl cycle means that I am not putting my body under any undue risk to get my princess. So, from this point onwards, I am going to be documenting my journey and will be living proof of whether Urobiologics’ guidance gets me my baby girl. I have already sent my two samples in and I am now waiting for my chart, which I will then publish in my second post in the series.

So, here is what to expect in the feature series, ‘Journey to getting my girl’

  1. Introduction – this post and the first of the series.
  2. The conception plan – A look into the urine sample results
  3. Getting pregnant – Tips on how to get pregnant and the FirstGender Test process
  4. Competition/Giveaway – Enter to win the PreGender Test and FirstGender Test for free

Introduction - journey to getting my girl - part 1

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Leyla Preston (455 Posts)

Leyla Preston is the owner and Editor of Motherhood Diaries global magazine for parents. Leyla is a busy mother of two even busier boys; Aron, 5, and Aidan, 4. When Leyla isn’t feeding, managing a gazillion tasks or cleaning the infinite mess at home, she is busy working on this magazine and a new cooking channel coming very soon – no rest for the wicked!You can follow Leyla on Twitter (@M_Diaries) or join the busy Motherhood Diaries Facebook group where all mums get together and share stories and solutions with one another: https://www.facebook.com//groups/motherhooddiaries/


  • Good luck! I can totally understand why you choose to!

    • Thanks dear. Just got back the results of the PreGender test. So will be sending another post update soon! xx

  • Debbie

    First and foremost good luck and prayers for a healthy, happy, baby.

    Have you thought about what happens if you’re in that 8% though and you get a boy. Are you going to be ok with that? What are you going to tell him? Do you know what makes you want a girl so badly?

    Please understand this is non-judgmental and I don’t expect a personal answer, this is just what came to my head when I read your post.

    • Thank you Debbie 🙂 No offence taken at all. Feel free to share your opinion 🙂
      I wouldn’t be upset at all. The boys would have a best friend either way. 🙂 As long as my baby is 100% happy and healthy, then I would love him/her as much as I love my 2 beautiful babies. But, the opportunity was offered to me that I could plan my baby in a girl cycle without using any invasive methods and the offer just sounded too great to turn down, especially with the 92% track record. As I mentioned in my post, if I don’t get a girl, I don’t get a girl. I’ll get a beautiful baby boy who would receive years worth of hand me downs from his brothers instead haha! Thanks so much for your thoughts xx p.s – I need to make sure that I can get pregnant first, though! 😉

  • Brittany Ferrell

    Despite once researching everything fertility related, I have never heard of this process and it sounds incredible from a scientific standpoint! I wish you the best of luck and look forward to reading your journey.

    • Hi Brittany, thank you!

      Can I ask what you researched? I’m currently trying to get pregnant and I don’t think it will come easily for me. Thank you for the best wishes. Right now, just hoping for a healthy baby! 🙂 x

  • Karla

    This is really interesting. My husband is one of two boys, and his Dad is one of four. We kind of thought the men in his family just couldn’t have girls. Our first child is a boy. We had been told about having his sperm spun to separate he male sperm from the female sperm! I was not interested – we are older parents, so I figured if we were blessed with another child, we’d just be happy, whatever the sex. But, I was kind of terrified about having another boy. I grew up with two older brothers, and I just wasn’t sure I could handle two boys. Shockingly, our second child is a girl, without any assistance. It’s funny though, because she is a brute, and my kids fight just as much as my brothers did! However, she is also a delight, and I am so grateful to have one of each, so I do understand your desire to have a girl. This is really just a timing thing, and since you’re fine with having a boy if it turns out that way, why not give it a try!? I used an ovulation predictor to get pregnant with my daughter and it worked great for us.

    • Congratulations on getting your girl! I might try the ovulation predictor because I’m not sure I’m going to get pregnant as easily this time around…

  • Rajji

    Hello everyone, I have three beautiful daughters, really wanted a boy ever since I got married 12 years ago, but thinking to have another one but scared to try this new method of urologist dr Verma. What are the chances? Thanks

    • Hi Rajji,

      I know how you feel. Send me an email to leyla at motherhooddiaries dot com and I’ll can send you more information and put you in touch with Dr Verma, if you are interested in learning more. Also, you’ll be able to know if it works, if I get my girl! 🙂

      • Rajji

        Thank you for reply. I will send you.. please give me your email address
        I am new to this page thank you

  • Jenny O’Hare

    Hi Leyla! I’ve been eagerly waiting for your updates! Can’t wait to see if you get your girl! I too have two boys that I adore, but would love to have a girl. I called and talked with Dr. Verma. He’s great! I’m planning to order the kit soon. We’d like to conceive later this year. My fingers are crossed for your girl! 🙂

    • Hi Jenny! Oh wow, good luck! We have had some trouble getting pregnant actually. And, as it has been a long time since we started the plan, I would need to resubmit my samples in order to get a new conception plan (all for free). So, please watch this space! 🙂

      Fingers crossed for you too! Dr. Verma is great, he is very approachable and tries to help as best as he can. I hope you get your girl too 🙂 x

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